What you do speaks so loud I cannot hear what you say
We’ve all heard the saying, “Actions speak louder than words” or “I may not remember what you said, but I’ll always remember how you made me feel.”
Sometimes we get so caught up in going through the motions; we forget to show people how we feel through our actions. Our “I love you’s” and “Have a nice day’s” and “Can’t wait to spend time with you” sometimes fall on deaf ears because the words aren’t backed by actions.
It is easy to tell someone “I love you,” “I miss you,” or “We should hang out more.” However, what are we doing to show these feelings?
Telling versus Showing
There is a big difference between telling someone you love them and showing them you love them. There are many ways to show someone you love them. Acts of affection, unexpected gifts, and simply spending time with them are great ways to show someone you love them. Showing instead of telling my feelings is something I am working on, particularly in my role as a mom and wife.
Parent and Kid Dates
I want my kids to grow up knowing how much they are loved. This is more challenging than I would have expected. Sometimes I get so caught up in getting homework done, eating dinner, bathing and brushing teeth, and cleaning rooms that I forget that they just want me to sit by them and hear about their day. Or lay by them and read a book. Or watch a movie with them while cuddling in blankets.
One thing we try to do occasionally is go on daddy/daughter or mommy/son dates. A couple months ago, I started feeling like my daughter and I were pulling apart. I was busy with life and wasn’t giving her enough one-on-one attention. I said to her, “Do you want to go on a mommy/daughter date this week?” She started crying and said, “I’ve been so sad. I don’t feel like you have time for me.” I felt awful.
Later that week we went on a mommy/daughter date and got things back on track. We went out to dinner and spent some time looking for some spring school clothes. Spending a couple of hours of one-on-one time helped get us back on track.
Love is Spelled T-I-M-E
Love is spelled T-I-M-E. I think there is no better way to show someone you love them than to invest your time into them. Get to know them. Let them talk about themselves. Actively listen to them. I created a printable a few months ago and have had it displayed on our fridge. It is a good reminder to us that we love that which we give our time.
So, what are we going to do? Go. Act. Serve. Show someone how you feel by what you do, rather than what you say.
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